Lately, I've felt so much more aligned with who I want to be. I've been attracting friendships, clients, and experiences that joyfully fill me. The other day after I finished my podcast with Shari Leid, I felt inspired to create more content. Being in creative energy attracts more creativity. Are you attracting what you want for yourself? Does your life and style align with who you want to be?

Before getting into this state of joy, there's a big thing you need to do. You need to know who you want to be. It might seem like an obvious question, but maybe it's not. Perhaps you do your daily routine, not stopping to think about whether it aligns with who you want to be. 

This is one of my favorite exercises because it creates instant results when you start changing things. You'll feel like you have the power to shift how things are going in your day-to-day life, how you feel and how you see yourself. 

It's like a journaled-out vision board of yourself in the present. See the person you want to be, and you can start acting in a way that reflects this.

I've done this a couple of times in the past year, and each time was different and eye-opening. It elevated my spirits and my personal growth journey by reaching into what I wanted for myself and my family.

My most recent journaling experience with myself included refreshing my whole look. My hairstyle, the color, the branding of my website, and even my outfits. I was at a point where I liked my outfits, but the services and people I served were at a new level for a while now. When I wore my old outfits, I felt like my wardrobe hadn't caught up to the businesswoman I was today. 

I swear to you that elevating my overall wardrobe, the exact thing I do with my personal clients was such a relief and a real boost in confidence. I felt all the feelings when I was ready to do my branding shoot. Like this is where I'm supposed to be, how I want to show up, and I feel so dang good in everything.

Leveling up my style also changed how I spend my money and time. Another thing I journaled about is being able to give more. To give financially and help others achieve their goals. As a young Latina business owner, this is important to me. I had to create my own path to success and take my future out of the money mindset that my family had. Personally, time is so important to me. I spend on help with our house, our children, my assistant, my social media manager, and coaches along the way. 

The final part of my journaling of who I want to be is someone who values connection. Who intentionally puts effort into speaking to everyone around me. The barista, the sales associates at the store, and someone in line with me at checkout. I want people to feel seen as someone who cares. Living in gratitude for me is the ultimate experience because life is made up of all these little moments. Sometimes I start talking to someone, and when I walk in, they are just going about their day. When I ask them about themselves or start a conversation, a big smile comes across their face and lights up.

Throughout the years, the connection has been the most important part of my business. It's allowed me to work with and help many other businesses along the way; it allows me to be a good listener and understand my client's needs and goals. It's what lights me up with my girlfriends and relationship. 

This is good stuff; getting into the depths of this topic because I want you to see how deep the styling experience can really go. When I start with one thing, journal, or feel something, I discover many other things along the way. When I work with clients, they tend to find something similar happens. They hire me to help them shop and find their style, but they start finding out there's more that needs some unpacking, and they begin to show up more or differently in their lives. They start to feel more connected to themselves and more comfortable in their body and a high-pressure environment. 

In September, I have a free workshop where I'll be sharing the Proven Method to Shop with Success. As you know from my blog, I'm not about quick fixes; I'm about real solutions. If you've felt like what you wear doesn't align with your life or who you are, I'd love for you to join. It'll be on September 13th and 14th, with various times to choose from. I'll go over the 3 step process to begin shopping to help you stop buying pieces you never wear.

If you have any questions, you'd like me to answer, email [email protected] and I can share tips.

FAQ's

Q: How do I figure out who I want to be?

A: Start by writing down who you want to be as if that version of yourself already exists today. The article describes this as creating a journaled vision of your present life, allowing your daily decisions, relationships, and wardrobe to begin reflecting that person.

Q: Can changing my wardrobe really change my confidence?

A: Yes. Tannya shares that updating her wardrobe to match the level of her business gave her a noticeable boost in confidence. When her clothing aligned with how she wanted to show up professionally, she felt more prepared, authentic, and excited for opportunities like her branding photo shoot.

Q: What is the connection between personal style and personal growth?

A: Personal style often reflects internal growth. The article explains that as your goals, career, relationships, and priorities evolve, your wardrobe may need to evolve alongside them so it continues to represent who you are becoming.

Q: Why do I feel disconnected from my wardrobe?

A: Feeling disconnected usually means your clothing no longer reflects your current life or aspirations. The article explains that style can lag behind personal growth, leaving you wearing outfits that fit your body but no longer represent the person you've become.

Q: How can journaling help me improve my personal style?

A: Journaling helps clarify the values, habits, and image you want your wardrobe to communicate. Tannya shares that writing about the woman she wanted to become led her to refresh her hairstyle, branding, website, and wardrobe so everything worked together.

Q: Is personal styling about more than clothes?

A: Yes. The article explains that clients often begin by wanting help shopping, but discover deeper changes in confidence, self-awareness, and the way they show up in work and relationships. Clothing becomes one expression of those internal changes.

Q: Where can I find a personal stylist in Seattle who focuses on confidence?

A: The Closet Edit offers personal styling services in Seattle and Bellevue, along with virtual styling worldwide. The goal is to help women create wardrobes that align with their current lifestyle, values, and future goals instead of simply following trends.

Q: How can I make my daily life feel more aligned with who I want to become?

A: Small intentional actions create meaningful change over time. Tannya shares that she focused on updating her wardrobe, investing in support where it mattered, giving generously, and making genuine connections with people she encountered each day because those habits reflected the person she wanted to become.