If you’re feeling stressed, overwhelmed, or stuck lately, it’s probably not because life is too hard or you’re doing too much.

It’s because you’re spending all your energy trying to manage your life instead of creating one that actually fits you.

That realization hit hard after listening to Tony Robbins say something simple but powerful: We are not designed to manage life. We are designed to create it.

And once you see it, you can’t unsee it.

The Real Source of Stress (That No One Talks About)

Most stress doesn’t come from responsibility. It comes from forcing systems, routines, relationships, and expectations that don’t align.

We try to:

• Follow someone else’s formula

• Stick to the “right” steps

• Control every outcome…and then feel frustrated when life doesn’t cooperate.

The problem isn’t you. The problem is trying to make it work instead of making it yours.

“Making It Work” vs. “Making It You”

Making It Work Looks Like:

• Forcing yourself into routines that don’t fit your life

• Staying in relationships that drain you

• Wearing clothes that look good in theory but feel wrong on your body

• Following advice exactly, even when it doesn’t feel aligned

Making It You Looks Like:

• Adapting instead of forcing

• Choosing alignment over control

• Taking what works and leaving the rest

• Creating a life that feels supportive, not exhausting

This shift applies to everything — parenting, business, relationships, and yes, style.

A Parenting Lesson That Applies to Life

Ever notice how most advice comes with a step-by-step system? That works… until it doesn’t.

Trying to follow every step perfectly, especially with other humans, creates more stress, not less. What actually helps?

• Taking one part that resonates

• Adapting it to what you need

• Letting go of perfection

Progress happens when you stop trying to follow the whole plan and instead ask: What’s one thing I can do differently that feels aligned?

You Don’t Need to Keep Every Relationship

This is your permission slip. Not every relationship is meant to last forever and that doesn’t make you unkind or ungrateful.

Ask yourself after spending time with someone:

• Do I feel energized or drained?

• Clear or overwhelmed?

• More like myself… or less?

The right people don’t take your energy; they multiply it. Your circle should support the version of you you’re becoming, not the one you’ve outgrown.

Style Is the Clearest Mirror of Identity

Style is where this lesson becomes obvious. You’ve probably experienced this:

• You love something online or on someone else

• You buy it

• It technically “works”… but you never wear it

That’s what happens when you try to make style work instead of making it you.

A Simple Rule:

If it doesn’t fit your body, lifestyle, or energy, it’s not for you. That white Prada pump may be beautiful, but if it pinches, it’s not a future problem to solve. It’s a no.

Style isn’t about copying. It’s about translation. You take:

• The color

• The vibe

• The feeling

…and adapt it to your body, your life, your comfort.

That’s why personal style is never cookie-cutter.

Why “Make It You” Matters (Beyond Clothes)

The Make It You Podcast exists for a reason. Because every woman goes through evolutions:

• After loss

• After career shifts

• After motherhood

• After changes in her body, identity, or priorities

And every evolution requires:

• New boundaries

• New self-trust

• A new way of showing up

Style becomes a tool — not for perfection — but for confidence, clarity, and momentum.

Some days, getting dressed is the thing that says: I’ve got this. And sometimes… that’s enough to change the whole day.

Ask Yourself This Today

Instead of asking “How do I make this work?”, try asking:

• What in my life is draining me?

• What energizes me?

• What feels misaligned Even if it looks “right”?

• What’s one thing I can remove, adapt, or change?

You don’t need a full overhaul. You need one honest shift.

Want Support Creating a Life (and Style) That Fits You?

If you’re going through a transition and your clothes no longer reflect the woman you’re becoming, you’re not alone.

Whether you need:

• Help rebuilding your closet

• Outfits for a trip or speaking engagement

• Clarity on what’s missing and what no longer belongs

My team and I are here to support you.

👉 DM me on Instagram @thecloset.edit

Tell me:

• One thing that’s energizing you

• One thing you’re ready to take off your plate

That conversation alone can change your week, maybe even your year.

You don’t need to manage your life better. You need to make it you.

Sending you a huge hug!